When You Hate Your Job But Can’t Quit

Here’s the thing… we’re often told to ‘do what you love and you’ll never work another day in your life’. That would be lovely wouldn’t it!

But the reality is that sometimes it’s just not possible at particular points in our lives. There are often little mouths to feed, mortgages to pay, and lives to be lived. And of course, they all cost money. Your body and mind might want you to quit but you can’t. The wheels just need to keep on turning.

Surveys show that the majority of everyday folk DON’T love their day job. People who do are definitely the lucky ones.

Yet, hope is not lost for everyone else. There are things you can do to improve your experience of work. It’s about being proactive, not passively waiting and wishing for your job to bring you ongoing happiness.

Action Steps

Here are 5 simple ways to make your job more enjoyable on a day-to-day basis…

1. Build new relationships
Positive and supportive relationships are crucial for our wellbeing. Take the opportunity to get to know your colleagues better. If you already have a staff buddy, step outside of your inner circle a bit. Make it a priority to get to know people outside your work team and build new friendships.

2. Look to learn
Actively seek ways to broaden your knowledge. Put your hand up for a new project, volunteer for a committee, or help someone who’s feeling overloaded. This may offer you new perspectives and new opportunities.

3. Use your breaks wisely
Instead of stuffing down your lunch at your desk or missing your break entirely, use it to your advantage. Do things you enjoy and wouldn’t make the time for otherwise. Indulge yourself! Read a book, call a friend, go for a walk, draw, or meditate. Do the same on your commute too, if you can. This will enrich your mind and spirit, and help to lower any tension before you arrive home.

4. Practice gratitude
This is such a lovely thing to do but one that we often don’t do enough. On your way home, spend a few moments identifying how many small yet good things happened in your day. You may be surprised at how much you have to be grateful for. It’ll also shift your focus away from dwelling on the negative.

5. Look at the positives
When all seems lost and your boss is driving you crazy and you are on the brink of losing it, try to shift to a big-picture view. Think of the benefits of being there – the financial stability, saving for the kids’ education, the skills you are learning, or simply that awesome feeling when the end of the week arrives.

It’s the little things that make a positive difference!

Which steps will you take this week, to make your work more enjoyable and fulfilling?

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How to Be Resilient to Rejection at Work

As we all know, rejection hurts. It’s true whether it’s as a teenager with your first crush or as an adult in the workplace. At work, it can be not landing that job you applied for, not being invited to be part of a particular project, being told that you’re not meeting client expectations… and the list goes on.

As we teach our young when they first fall off a bike, the best way to deal with rejection is to get up, dust yourself off and try again. To maintain our wellbeing – both personally and professionally – we need to be able to deal with these situations in positive and healthy ways.

That sounds simple, and of course the process rarely is. The good news is that negative experiences like rejection can help us to grow and to build our resilience to future challenges – so they affect us less often and we can bounce back more quickly.

Action Steps

Here are 5 key steps to moving forward positively from rejection at work…

1. Allow yourself to feel it
Rejection hurts. It sets off the same area in our brain as physical pain. So give yourself time to feel the emotions – disappointment, sadness, anger, embarrassment or fear. Don’t ignore or deny these feelings as they’ll only resurface later. Accept that they’re an appropriate response to the situation.

2. Be Self-Compassionate
Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. Mistakes are how we learn in life and build ourselves as better people. Talk to yourself kindly, as you would to a friend who was going through a similar situation.

3. Be Objective
Take an objective look at the rejection. Step back from your own perspective and look at the situation from another angle. Was it warranted in some way? Is there something you missed? Is the time not right? Are your hopes realistic? What could you have done better? It can be a hard task to put yourself under the spotlight but the lessons learned can be invaluable.

4. Learn the lessons
This is crucial for building resilience for the future: Ask yourself, what can I learn from this situation? What can I take from this experience that will be useful in the future?

5. Move On
Finally, allow yourself to move on. Let it go and move forward. Don’t let it stop you from enjoying life, now and into the future.

Think briefly about past rejections you’ve experienced at work…

What could you learn from these situations that could be useful for you, now or in the future?

Take a mental note of these, so you can build your resilience and equip yourself for future challenges.